Consciousness of children against what?

Q: I home baby two aged two months has, usually in community in is hiring like, large people are like makes he, back poems, and singing, and children were playing, he fundamental no consciousness and others fights, and scrambling for, sometimes , even other children playing he, he are no to against of consciousness, I wanted to to he sent kindergarten, but to he of character, I wanted to, must will suffer of, please members help help has, I should how training he , thanks has!

A: first of all, we see a bit of story:

Every weekend, assumptions, you send the kids to swimming pool to learn swimming. A recent weekend, go to preparing the course location back to the children of the time, staff found a face full of regret, is trying to comfort you have be dissolved in tears of children. Under questioning, you know that the staff because of negligence, in swimming after the end of the class, will your children locked in the changing room, more than 10 minutes after it was found, so that children suffer from false alarm.

How will you handle staff negligence? There are several options:
· Lash the staff meal
· Complaints directly to the competent
· Children leave angry zone, will not participate in swimming training course.
· Comforting the children, and asked him to comfort staff full of apologies.

End of the story, is the child after the mother\'s comfort and advice, stop crying, and told staff that have been deeply sorry: \"never mind, I have been all right! \" Through the appropriate help and forgiveness, children can be in the story\" victims \"the role of sublimation into\" comfort \"role. Forgiveness is not only to the benefit of negligence on the part of the staff, more important is to make the child develop tolerant and generous character, courage and with presence of mind in the face of disasters.

Why the power of forgiveness is so magical? Because only through forgiveness of others, to release their own on the psychological.

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Come back to us, said children in the communication process will often encounter small contradictions and conflicts. Related discussions posted in the community a lot, there was a contradiction between what the children? What children are playing? Should teach children to tit for tat?

Children chase between, bump is often the case. You hit me today, I gave you tomorrow, maybe two and were one the day after tomorrow. Conflicts between children, come fast, go fast, parents do not have to see that serious. Speaking to kids, these \"play\" drive them slowly understanding the \"self\" and \"the other\" relationships know arbitrary, unreasonable, capricious and domineering, will not work in the community. And learn to get along with people, proper way of handling the problem. Learn to forgive, is a required course for children. It is useful to overcome the \"self-centered\" consciousness, know that \"I\" and \"the other\" meaning; is conducive to harmonious interpersonal relationships, social adaptation of children and cooperation spirit; can help kids learn tolerance, patience, for the sake of others; for children good formation of character.

The two most common types of errors – the children on the two extremes, or be afraid of getting into trouble or very domineering

Error: \"protection\"

Have a look at their children beaten, will not let the children out, fear that children suffer on the outside, \"you went out and beat people, had better stay at home. ”

Will result in adverse consequences: as the unduly restrict a child\'s action will make children not gregarious, hostile foreign people, will become timid and overcautious, lack of communication skills.

Myth two: \"offensive\"

Knowing children after being beaten, no matter what, first of all, reflect is \"it also has to find their parents to\", or simply tell the children, \"he hit you, you hit him! \" Some even family rushed to the scene to embolden the child.

Will result in ad

verse consequences: the child into the habit of \"reprisals\", regardless of who he is, as long as \"committed\" to me, to give the return stroke, \"tit for tat\", never hesitate.

\"Rational\" – to the children themselves to address the problem of courage, tolerance is a kind of strength

\"Rational\" parents approach is first asked to clear the ins and outs of the matter, fairly and objectively analyze help children, in this case, who did well, who did well, kids encounter similar events should be how to solve it later.

First of all, parents can tell the children: first of all, we do not bully people, especially not bully the weaker person than oneself.

If someone loves you, you can avoid or face to face and his reasoning, and even fight back against, in short, you don\'t get hurt. In the face of external violation, performance of the concession is cowardice, is not brave; only howl pottery cry, allowing the fist falling on his head, is foolish.

To children in General and in particular has to be honest child, parents should pay attention to self-protection of children in peacetime education. Addition to tell children how to treat people of bullying and what to do with external, but also to encourage the child to contact and other children, build confidence in getting along with others in the game.

Some children are afraid of dealing with strangers, within also behave in communal life, cold feet, parents and teachers should pay attention to correct these shortcomings of the child and create conditions so that they contact, contact with new things. Children of lively, cheerful personality and dare to express the courage to dare to argued the practice.

Secondly, grooming, transferring children to contradictory results attention and reflect on the causes, review your faults, shortcomings and failure tolerance partners.

Tell children to be honest to his friends, learn to forgive the error or negligence. Understand the toleranc

e and patience will help to promote friendship. In addition, teach children forgive standards. They distinguish between right and wrong, knowing which forgiving approach should be taken, which is not to excuse. Understand forgiveness,Does not mean that there is no principle, not to give up criticism and resistance. If necessary, so that harmful effects of child care experience do not forgive others: as always haggle with people not magnanimous, children will be afraid or don\'t like to be friends with you. Forgive others, also do not have access to other people\'s apologies.

Criticized the shortcomings of other children at the same time, to give their children also point out that responsibility in the event, not to pour all the blame upon other children. Even if the primary responsibility for the conflict on the other side, but also to make children learn tolerance, magnanimity, not brood.

To let the child know, sometimes in order to show their strength in order to protect themselves from harm, bullying from the outside world to be committed response is necessary. Sometimes in order to maintain the pure friendship between people, understand each other, forgive each other well.

Let kids learn tolerance, learn to forgive

Modern\'s one-child families, I am afraid that in the minds of children in each parent\'s are the \"supremacy\", and who also do not want your child to be \"be bullied\", who did not want their children to be all day long book which you gave me \"fighting King\". How to educate the children, how to get children to master the \"degree\", is particularly important.

· Must educate the children put their own position in the family, let him know he\'s just a common member of the family, he can no longer be pampered, cannot be met without limits to his wishes, not to give him special rights , make him high above.

· Asking a child to others, not always to \"me\" centric, all their own interests.

· Necessary, let the children

some expense experience of concessions, to exercise restraint capacity of the child.

· Give kids and more opportunities for peer interaction, to get exercise. Let children appreciate in the consequences of the conflict only solidarity, friendship, tolerance, humility, happy to enjoy playing together.

· Children to be taught to understand and respect their elders, sympathetic to the seniors hard, cherish elders work and for their own care.

· To tolerance of fraternity among family members, children from an early age to live in a warm family environment of tolerance, harmony, love, make subtle influence, gradually forming stable tolerance and patience of good quality.