How to cultivate children\'s independence

Independence is important

United States psychologists push Meng Ceng track 1500 exceptional children for a long period of observation, 30 years found 20% what has been achieved, compared with some achievements the largest 20% of these people, find the most significant difference is not in terms of intelligence, but personalities are different, outstanding achievements are strong personalities such as persistence, independence and courage of the people. Fact that a person to be successful, only the clever mind is not enough, also must have independence, self-control, perseverance, good personality.

China Society of pre-school education, family education society was in a random manner in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Chongqing four major urban launched a survey on children\'s independence. Survey select 4,464 3~7sui parents of young children, including status, parental education and family education, parents \' evaluation of personality, parents expect of children, child development, family education Foundation and the State of the environment.

Survey results show, from 3~6sui, four urban children to dress himself grow from 25% to 45%, dress rather than their proportion decreased from 21% in 3 years to 6 years of 11%. From data, to dress their children grew up significantly increases with age. However, children dress in two years, and he began to have their own aspirations and abilities, to 3 years old can have independent dressing. The survey results, to the age of 6, a significant proportion of young children do not dress himself, no matter what, negative child growth.

In addition, a considerable number of displayed indicators of children\'s independence, and not as child age changes have a noticeable difference. Regardless of 3 aged also is 6 aged, has assertive of children are in 40% around, and not has assertive of is in 8% around; Dang children work of when, 3~6sui of children, has 20% around, even own can dry, also hope are adults of help; does not hope are adults help of, only accounted for all children of 8%, and as children age of increases and slightly has decline; Dang encountered difficulties of when, half around of children are requirements others help, Basic does not with age of growth and changes. In addition, the 20% left and right while the children were 3 years old often cry, to the age of 6 remains the same.

Therefore, experts generally believe that too many parents of children in family package, children awareness of independence a serious shortage of child care has no apparent progress in these areas, this is extremely detrimental to future development of the child.

Key to the independent ability of

Cherish the children themselves independent of intention

Psychologists pointed out: when the child care requires some independent activities meet or adult support, child care showed pride and pleasure, a \"pride\" and \"proud\", self-sure feelings and attitude, otherwise, it will appear in the negative emotions and attitudes. Therefore, we must greatly cherish the children\'s independence intentions, giving enthusiastic encouragement and support, continuous development so that its independence.

Respect

Note on child\'s tone and manner, to listen to children talk, make children feel you respect him. Children eat not to force, let the child do not command as far as possible tone. Do not publicly scolded the child \"disappointing\" and \"idiot\", \"worthless\", which would hurt children\'s self-esteem. Equal attitude toward children. Facts prove that full respect for the child of parents, are mostly very friendly, polite, tasteful, strong sense of self-independent. Psychologists believe that this is a good response of children deserve respect.

Not overprotective

In Europe and the United States, attaches great importance to cultivating independence of children of parents who advocate independent consciousness of young children. Children are born, let him host a room alone, and very few live with their parents. When children learn to walk and fell, own up.

From the interest on culture

Let the children do anything to avoid simple commands, preventing their labor hostility or aversion to psychology. Children\'s games have a strong interest in child care when doing symbolic labor, to game as far as possible, so that they will participate actively with great interest, if often adhere to the training, they will gradually develop a habit of loving labor. Independence and diligence, not afraid of hardship are inseparable, not labor, fear hard, how can adhere to the independence and autonomy?

Slow decomposition action

Parents can provide what level of support according to the child\'s level. Such as eating, children may start independent meal does not know how to get scoops, how to put into the mouth, parents can break the eating action, step by step to teach children.

Language guidance essential

Despite the language comprehension and expression ability of young children is not very high, but if the clear demonstration of the action to the appropriate language explaining, will also receive a multiplier effect. Intuitive image of action is the best tool interpret the meaning of language.

Independent training

1, to be patient. Fostering children\'s ability to live independently is a long, cumbersome, and detailed work, so this task, parents should have the patience. For example, teaching children their own shoes, buttons, parents need to teach children the right way, patient observation, but also to encourage timely, patient help. Personally for the child than parents shoes, buttons of nature to trouble and time consuming, but you want to know your child\'s independent ability\'s training from a life in the little things.

2, to be followed by the simple to complex, the principle of gradual and orderly progress. For example, in respect of children independent of eating and drinking, teach children to eat with a small spoon at 1 year, to around 1 and a half, we should teach children to touch the Bowl on the left hand, right hand scoops of its own independent eating, but also to teach him with both hands holding a cup of water, wipe your mouth with a napkin after meals. Two and a half, children will be able to clean benefit

Floor eating a meal.

3, through the game to mobilize the enthusiasm of the children. For example, teaching three or four children of their own face, use either the tone of the game: \"mother and Bob competition to see who was quick and clean face wash. \"Then, giving children a towel, model, and explain the order of the wash, wash.

4, requires consistent and persevere.

Kindergarten require children to do something, go home after parents to stop children to do, asking a child or parents do, Grandma has to handle, which is not conducive to the child independent ability of students. Only teachers and parents a coordinated, common requirements, repeatedly strengthening, forming solid contact, to make the child\'s early formation ability to live independently.

5, with reasons for the kids.

Parents should let your children know, MOM and Dad in addition to work every day, come home to do a lot of things, child domestic work should also participate in means, thus gradually formed habits of labor.