All parents know, children make mistakes when scolding is simple and crude method of education. But how can you avoid impulse, does not hurt the feelings of children can achieve education purposes? Education experts remind parents of the child, do not let those who shouldn\'t say God bless.
Diminish the
Six years under the supervision of the baby in his mother\'s stomach in their little desk to do the job, also good at the beginning, but only if the mother turned and began to draw on the exercise book villains. After some wits, mother was angry and loudly criticized road: you can\'t consciously did a little! Did not appear to me to look, you can\'t do nothing!
Baby\'s understanding of this sentence: baby, MOM said is denying one\'s own ability. Before the age of 7, most babies can only be understood literally, they do not have sufficient ability to distinguish which words should be taken seriously, which only parents saying on his head. Even now the children seem to be smarter than we were young and many, but Carol always IMP, they will be described by their parents \"grows up only to pick worn\" feel sad.
Right way to criticism: a deep breath and stabilize their emotions first, then peace will tell you why his performance was disappointing. Criticism should be for the children\'s behavior and not personalities, and pointed out that the correct behavior. We can say, \"I see you didn\'t write your homework, but eight points before you have finished all the homework. \" When necessary, parents can also stress the consequences of such mistakes. For example, \"If you can\'t finish the homework in half an hour, to catch up with your favorite cartoon! ”
Empty threats
It\'s getting late, mother to call home, the son of the age of five. But he obviously didn\'t play enough, not only for the deaf ear to the mother, also hung on stubbornly refuses to down slide. Last mother finally lost patience, threatening: well, you won\'t go home right, then I will
leave you here!Baby\'s understanding of this sentence: threats can destroy children\'s trust to others. A lack of trust around the world\'s children are agitation, irritability and timid. In addition, the threat would not only enhance your prestige in the eyes of the children, but will led him to not put your words as seriously. Because he knows that even if you say more scary now, they are just saying that.
Right way to criticism: in approving the baby before you go out to play, it is necessary to set rules beforehand. For example, \"can only be played for an hour. Time to call you mother will later. At that time no act shamelessly is not permitted to cry, if there\'s no playing enough, to get with my mom said, \' please let me play for ten minutes. \"If a child is disobedient, we should let him know how violations of the rules to be punished. Of course, this punishment, don\'t just talk about it, make sure the child to experience.
\"You did not obey! ”
Baby was playing on hot, despite his parents \' warnings off his coat, results began to cough and fever that night. MOM heart although distressed, but in order to enable children to receive lessons, put on a look of indifference, \"so that you don\'t listen to adults! ”
Baby\'s understanding of this sentence: baby unruly, disobedient does make people angry. However, such as \"makes you not obey! \"\" Look, what I say! \"Such rhetoric sounds as if the children are saying, you silly child! Can\'t tell even with \"good\"! Everything you want to listen to the adults in the future, remember no! Over time, children can have a doubt on their ability, or even think MOM and dad really own ruthless.
Right way to criticism: now that the child has been a lesson, on the premise of without jeopardizing the health and safety, let the facts experience to teach them how to \"chiyiqian, wiser\". If you fear that the child does not accept lessons will always suffer should be guiding the baby themselves in a positive wa
y to their lessons. Do not have to insist on answers to baby in what exactly, as long as they can get a little inspiration from this setback, it is the parent of a great success.Casual label
Mothers with babies to the age of three supermarket shopping. See candy baby crying speak carelessly pestering my mother to buy is not available. Mother lived around the crowd voted to look harsh warning, \"nobody likes a crying ghosts! ”
Baby\'s understanding of the sentence: when parents inadvertently give children \"definition of labelling,\" when is easily understood by children, himself is such a person, usually gives the impression that the case. This is absolutely a false negative for baby hinted that had a great influence on shaping their personality.
Right way to criticism: defining children\'s behavior, not to the child\'s personality is also covered, and don\'t forget to tell your child\'s behavior. For example, \"don\'t cry! Love cry guicai Act shamelessly. No use crying to me, what he wants to have a good talk. \"Then, teach the child how to politely tell their own requirements and ideas. Of course, the parent does not have to make concessions, you just need to let the child know that he\'s good, you will only consider his request.
Humiliation
Mother asked the four-year old son and kindergarten children to get along, and he knocked other children to. Also under the surprise and anger, mother son shook his head saying, \"you\'ve really let me down! ”
Baby\'s understanding of this sentence: \"disappointed\" by these words mean to baby \"mothers like me, she would rather not me. \" Once the baby is believed that their existence was not looking forward to, easily lost in the process of growing up, did not know how to face their true thoughts. Some children even despair, about allowing others to their own future.
Right way to criticism: help children with transposition
Thinking, to point out that the right approach. We can ask, \"Ifthe ice push you, what would you feel? Be angry, right. So if you wanted to play ice is playing with a toy should say? \"Boot after kids say the correct answer, and then slowly explain to him, if not friendly to others, you will lose friends of truth.Comparison
Neighbors daughter very tidy of the age of seven, his four year old daughter is a dirty King. After N help plese to clean her room, MOM finally could not resist complaining up. \"People and so sister always in Apple-Pie order something myself, how can you even half the people also catch up with it! ”
Baby\'s understanding of this sentence: General comparison of him in front of children and other children not only useless, and sometimes even counter-productive. Because the parents clearly kids--you than others. Not only will this contusion in children\'s self-confidence, will also increase the gap between children and their parents. Little guy even doubts, why no matter what I do, MOM and dad are not satisfied with it? Maybe they just don\'t like me.
Right way to criticism: instead of hating it indisputable, might as well give the child more encouragement. Baby first assign some simple work, encouraging her alone, because \"mother sure you can do it! ”。 Children like to be praised, mother of trust is the best power them up.
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