Because the home also has a brother, nine vigorous always think MOM and dad don\'t like her. Whether it is out of play, the birthday party is when with mother, he always complained that MOM and dad eccentric. When mother to explain himself spent a lot of time with him or what he had done something wrong and brother had no time, vigorous Jue mouth says brother some of the toys themselves no or emphasis had made mistakes while they are very good.
Many children have mental such vigorous, not found thing when they see others have their own, including clothes, ability, popularity and toys, even some unexpected things can induce their jealousy psychology. Some parents think that this will disappear naturally as children grow older, but experts pointed out that excessive jealousy may affect the normal psychological development of children, that they themselves feel inferior in comparison with others, impede the establishment of children self-confidence and self-esteem, so parents should teach them before children reach school age how to overcome this. Let us below to learn how to help kids minimize jealousy psychology, and when the child when occupied by small brains were jealous of how to overcome their emotions.
Note the child implied and expressed sympathy
Child has difficulty controlling his emotions, but for parents, observe the child\'s behavior, grasp the emotions of children is not difficult. When the children of an outbreak of jealousy psychology when their behavior changes often occur, such as engaging in sabotage, cry or speak ill of envy object, and so on. Sometimes, jealousy psychology will also be reflected in the child\'s mental and physical aspects, such as stomach pains, upset, irritability, depression or not motivated. At this time, parents need to express sympathy and understanding for the kids, and help children speak out their ideas. For example, dad with a 5 year old daughter playing swing, standing at the side of the 3-year old son hurt to cry, mother can say, \"look, Dad keep sister to play, we have been left out on the side, it is really unfair, isn\'t it? \"If a child consent, parents can tell him this feeling is called the\" envy \"--\" I know you think that jealousy, isn\'t it? But that\'s OK. \"Parents can appease the understanding of children\'s emotion, because this time, children are more often not desire satisfied, but parents patiently listened to, as well as an affirmation of their feelings.
Let the child know that adults would envy
It is clear that jealousy is a negative emotion, but we have to let the children know, even their envy dear MOM and dad will feel. We can tell our children, when baby and father affectionate when mother is jealous father, but MOM will not be angry or sad. Or cite their own stories as a child, told the baby also had the same feelings. For example, when brother and vigorous complained he could not attend when Tae kwon do classes, my mother told him he was a child there had the same experience, but this can be overcome. \"You know? When I was in primary school, MOM and dad never allowed me to play in the street, but the neighbors sister can rubber band skipping all the way to dark outside! You say how unfair! \"This story was found by vigorous mother jealousy. Mother then told, any child can not be exactly the same treatment and others, so you must learn to accept.
Not to place undue emphasis on negative things
Child by observing practices by adults to create their own way, so when you discover that when children feel jealous, while in sympathy, and less stressed child\'s position, not to accuse was object of envy, or feelings of jealousy will further stimulate not only the children, also causes children to develop blamed the bad habits of others at every turn. If your child find their neighbor was invited to the student\'s birthday party, but he has not been invited. This time we must not blame the birthday boy \"unfriendly\" and should tell children, mother understands your grievances, but don\'t be sad, everyone has different friends, their birthday is not can not please all the people I know here? In this way, children will understand not because they are not popular but was not invited, nor does the pain as a result the classmate a birthday.
Help children to find a viable solution
Feeling jealous of the kids always want you to be and others the same treatment, if parents are able to induce children to control their emotions, not only to ease the jealousy of psychological, also helps build children\'s confidence and self-esteem. If a child feel that the team has a length of time teammates play than we could ask him, if you strengthen practice, will be changed? At this time, children will find that although themselves have no control over the coach\'s choice, it can control their own choosing--through contacts to enhance their skills, naturally many opportunities to play. Or, when the children to others devoted attention to the children of parents felt jealous when we should take action to remove children of misunderstanding. BF because mother missed the age of 5 very dissatisfied with the performance of their school performance, \"other people\'s mothers are coming! \"So, MOM let meimei gave themselves a concert party at home. In this way, the United States understood a mother is in fact very concerned about his own, will no longer be disappointed or jealousy the other classmates.
Try not to take the children and others contrast
You may notice that the, when talking about other children of a centerless \"TINGTING getting cute\", or just a smile and a shrug of action, even carrying a raised eyebrows may be child interpreted as \"comparison\". Especially when your child at the time of an aspect of doing a good job, they make it easier for those who have the ability to do children feel jealous. On one occasion, beautiful mother and an aunt said, girl next door curls cute, but unfortunately his own daughter\'s hair is straight. Unexpectedly, the next day
, The United States will require the mother took us to hot curly hair salon to head! Meimei mother suddenly realized that my evaluation raises the jealous daughter, since then, she has no evaluation daughter hair, at the same time very careful not to take daughters and other children made no meaningful comparison.Help your child discover your strengths
Lack of confidence always likes to emphasize his own weaknesses, and that inferior feeling more likely to stimulate their jealousy psychology. Therefore, parents must help children develop self-confidence and let him know they also have advantages, and are proud of their capital. If a child has talent in drawing, parents should encourage more. Whenever a child has their own solutions to a problem or make a little progress, if only an arithmetic problem, should also let him know MOM and Dad had noted, and are proud of him. Experts pointed out that when the children to be proud of when they would be easier to accept other people get more attention than me in some way. This confidence can not only help children overcome his jealousy, and more conducive to shaping them self, this is the ability to really envy of others.
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