Around the home both yanger

This month\'s expert Xu Fan
The parents must read magazine Deputy Editor, child psychology experts

Q my children aged 4 and a half, often play other people on the outside, but at home doing very well. This is all about?

A beating this attack, to a large extent, depends on several factors:

Under threat felt the threat to children, or show aggressive behavior, or retraction. Out of the threat of successful experiences in the past has by hitting win toy children, in a similar scenario, also hitting. Once having been beaten children feel hitting power, not vulnerable circumstances, also try hitting way out of trouble.
Most children are instinctive judgment of each other\'s strengths to bully the weak. In General, the children will know the Lord than his, and therefore rarely attack adults. But when the child is clear when an adult is dull to him, can also play the adults. Children judgment of peers strength rather poor, sometimes focusing on the game, may also help him strong children.
Parents \' attitudes in General, parental anxiety is \"what about my child a bully? \"Instead of\" I love beating the children do? \"Some parents even chuckle:\" my children don\'t suffer in the future. \"This attitude of the parents, will to some extent condoning acts of beating children. In General, we do not claim too much intervention between children on small scale, I believe that in this process of self-and peer response will help children learn. But for behavior that is clearly beating, as the guardian, or should the intervention, early established rule, the better:
Out agreement \"went out today don\'t feel free to play children, if you forget, mothers will let you stop the game, think about it. ”
Action consistent with the Convention found that children playing when, to matter to tell kids, hitting is not a good way to solve the problem: \"you have to get Zeng Yangyang\'s China painting when small, played great cry. We want to apologize to him. \"If a child refuses to apologize, you can let the children stopped 3-5 minutes of the game, or leave the Games venues for a while.
Insist on an apology after the kids calm down, adults should take the initiative concern was child. To the children of their own making demonstration. Once children can apologize to enlarge his voice, and praised him.
Teach children the right way \"small barrels is great, you can discuss it with him, or taking your car and Yangyang to put in play. But not robbed. ”
In performance and not the same, shows children can quickly distinguish the two different environments, and adapt to environmental changes. Such a child learning ability should not bad. When you believe the line manager\'s attitude and clear, the children will also have a corresponding change.

Edit/Shen Yan (shenyan@bphg.com.CN)
Source: 2007 issue of the parents must read