Many parents now there is a common affliction, children lack of confidence, an important period of the early childhood stage was form a confident. Confidence is a prerequisite for children\'s success and success criteria, it is hard to imagine people can really make something of a lack of confidence. A lack of confidence and full of inferiority in children, even if the mind is very clever, responsive, but difficulties and frustration in the learning problems occur.
Self-confidence can make children afraid of difficulties, actively trying to, struggled to forge ahead, and acquire more knowledge and experience, achieve better results. Encourage, praise for enhancing children\'s self-confidence is very useful.
Fostering children\'s self-confidence, available from the following aspects:
First, the appreciation of children a bit of progress, saying \"you are great.\"
Dress such as a child of 4 years, do not say: \"you dressed yourself now, buy you ice cream in the afternoon. \"Instead, you simply say:\" I think you have grown up, was able to put it on. \"At the prompt, he tried to get dressed, feel has grown up, will in their efforts to consolidate that feeling every day thereafter, thus greatly increased self-confidence.
Evaluation is essential for children confidence mental of adults. Early childhood, adult children trust, respect, recognition, often said to him \"you are great\", children will see their strengths certainly his progress, think they are really very good. Conversely, often by adults in the negative, contemptuous, suspicion, often heard \"you really stupid, you can\'t do it, you will not be\" an evaluation of the child will also deny your own, to doubt their abilities, resulting in low self-esteem. Therefore, adults must pay attention to your child\'s evaluation, more proud of strengths of the child, do not regret for the child\'s weaknesses. To positive encouragement to mainly to identifying children Flach point, do not blindly taking their children with other children, but a comparison of past and present of more children, let your child know you grew up, progress, resulting in a corresponding confidence. Particular special slow development of the child should be given to more care and encouraging, let your child know how everyone has strengths, so that correct evaluation of the children gradually establish their.
Second, to create opportunities for children self-confidence in practice.
Give him some tasks he must be able to do, such as tilting bowls, To serve in a dish, get Grandpa glasses, to address a newspaper, he did praise. Sometimes helped him do some of the more difficult things, such as washing the handkerchief, wipe leather shoes, sorting toys on the shelves, will do more to much praise, establishing her self-confidence. Get up in the morning and go to sleep at night to make his own dressing, exercise independence. Need to know their self-confidence and independence, starting from bit by bit, not abstract. So parents should be correctly recognizing the disadvantages and advantages of children, grasping, creating good opportunities and conditions for the child to try and find, the development capacities of the child, and when a child is successful, timely recognition, fully affirmed the progress, to let children experience the joy of success, create happy positive emotional experiences.
Third, with a way to encourage children\'s self-confidence
Encourage children one of the most important aspects, each child need to be encouraged, as if plants need sunshine and rain. Does not promote children cannot grow up healthily. But we often underestimate children encouraged, tend to forget to encourage. Many people erroneously believe that children need is education, continuous education, and education more is indoctrination and discipline.
When children try to do one thing without success, we should avoid using language, failed to prove to him that his action. We should be to separate the things and people, have failed to do something does not mean that the child is incompetent, but he has not mastered skills. Once the skill to master, he will be able to do things. If we take blame attitudes, children\'s confidence will be hurt, is not as simple as mastering skills at this time. Children may not forever in this matter. For adults, and first of all, we cannot be discouraged or lose confidence.
Want to encourage children, two of the most important are: first, not irony for him, make him subject to different combat; the second, not too much to commend him to avoid proud emotion. In the education of our children, must always be taken into account to this: don\'t make children lose confidence in themselves. At the same time, we should know, how to encourage your child\'s confidence.
IV let the children from the joy of success obtained in confidence
Conditions of self-confidence of children is to allow children to successful experience, and too many failed experiences often create doubts about the ability of young children on their own. Therefore, teachers and parents should be based on child development and individual difference, made tasks appropriate to their level and requirements, establish an appropriate target, making it through hard work to complete. They need to successfully learn one thing to be confident, also, for children of the lack of confidence, be very concerned. As timid timid children, to consciously make them at home or on the class performing certain work, develop bold confidence in the process of completing the task. Creating democratic, harmonious family atmosphere as humans live on sunlight, air, all affecting children\'s physical and intellectual development.
In addition, we also kexin help children, carry forward the advantage to have long, grams has short approach to develop and improve the child\'s self-confidence, ambition
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