Gender identity is a natural cognition of people to their physiological sex, cannot be completed in a timely manner if a child in early childhood gender identity, it may appear in future acts of varying degrees of gender bias, affecting all aspects of development, even the physical and mental health.
Perspective: why gender dislocation occurs
Natural causes: biological studies have shown that, in the embryonic stage, gonad structure in the early development of the people tend to form the female organ of ovarian, psychologists Manne called the \"principle of Eve\". If the lack of male hormones, fetus in the womb can cause feminization of male brain, resulting in gender identity problems.
Because the day after tomorrow: the person\'s gender identity is through the understanding of the self-sex body image, on neuroendocrine and physiological activities such as voiding mechanism of clear, as well as through parental role model, effect of strengthening the role of the social and language development. Many parents believe that gender awareness was a natural thing, with the growth of age, children will logically complete gender identity to determine their gender roles. In fact, apart from the effect of congenital reasons, a child eventually confirm that he is a boy or a girl, mainly in the external environment and education under the penetration of slow. If not give children the correct orientation of the outside world, children are likely to produce gender confusion of roles.
Children sex dislocation 3 families of high risk area
Single parents and fushequ: single parent families in the lack of resolute confidence of the gentle care of the mother or father, it is difficult to give children a complete and harmonious environment for the growth, long time, and children of the same sex adult life easier to deviate from the correct gender roles, and many parents not feel at all about the impact of such deficiencies, such as when a child\'s gender identity problem is found, children have long way from the normal track. Because one of the parents remained common during peak hours, unable to take care of the child\'s family.
Disharmony of family: psychologists found that grew up in a disharmony of family child characters often have different levels of defects or rebellious radical or stubborn weird. Under the pressure of such children in the family fails to properly complete gender identity may be resentment onto parents, converted to a certain gender attitudes of deviation.
Parents misleading family: for example, some parents out of preference for girls or for other reasons, his boy \"dress up\" into a girl, (or vice versa) sth Long-term \"specific dress up\" can lead to children with gender identity confusion. Especially when the children grow into adolescence, the second features appear one after another, more prone to psychological problems.
Other factors that affect gender dislocation
School: in the initial stages of education, children\'s \"Shi who\" essentially female, kindergarten \"man and aunt\" nature is rare, even in most cities in China\'s primary and secondary schools, teacher of ecological imbalance in gender issues are increasingly prominent. Some personality and physiological characteristics of male teachers, female teachers are irreplaceable. Less school men teachers, just as lack of father love \"single parent family\", likely to cause defects in children\'s mental, thinking. And most of the schools also requires children to behave, conduct as an example of female students, and use this as a standard measure for boys.
Society: as competition in the community, in order to increase the survival of weights, many women is education more and more \"strong.\" Parents might have witnessed the further education and employment and other aspects of the brutal competition, so called children early \"against\" to standard requirements for boys girls everywhere. The other hand, many parents especially ancestors, only child of care, in the context of this boy is easy to develop a gentle, sentimental, not as a man of habit. (Text/Yan Jincheng)
Expert view: sex education should not be ignored
Gender identity is one of the ways children s discovery of the world, is a person\'s sense of self-attribution of gender, that is, for dividing himself to be a man or a woman. Everybody\'s growth process, it is a process of on their own, others continually explore identity. When the 3~4sui, most of the gender of the children have been able to agree with yourself and others.
Some parents think that children can accurately called \"Uncle\" or \"Auntie\", is gender awareness was qualified. Some parents of limited physical education, totally ignore the gender roles in education.
Gender roles determine the future of the human sexual roles and social roles, which included both awareness of itself, also includes the understanding of others and the environment. Education through gender roles, children will know how to be a person, what responsibilities, how to establish the concept of self, how to respect for the opposite sex and how to work with others. If a child is in early childhood gender identity fuzzy, disorders of gender roles, then sexual orientation is likely to be affected. Causes of homosexuality is certainly complex, but young Jesu in cognitive barriers to gender identity, is a very important reason. In addition, some young Jesu disordered person of gender role, hearts desire sex with real gender conflicts, forming uneven pressure inside and outside. Such a person likes to wear clothes of the opposite sex, identity around the opposite sex; some also on the level of this contradiction in the role playing, made doing specific things, and finally development to select degeneration.
Gender differences in physiological functions of men and women are congenital, differences in cognitive abilities, personality characteristics, and so was formed the day after tomorrow, is the result of socialization. Play a role of men and women in family life and social life, depends on the influence of adults from childhood come to accept and education. Therefore, the implementation of sex education in early childhood stage, it is particularly important.
We advocate \"boy to boy-like (strong, resolute, and so on)\", \"girl to girl-like (gentle, careful, and so on)\" and develop the personality of the child consistent with gender roles, which can have a great help on his life and learning. Today, most of the urban children have no brothers or sisters, and in the living environment of the closed unit,
This requires parents from the perspective of gender education, lay the foundations for children form good cognitive.At the time of sex education for children, is important to note that attitude of parents, children to gender identity confusion or behavioral deviation, you cannot simply lecture, to let children have a sense of tension and even crime. Should be persuasive, it would be \"moisten things silently\" this important life lesson for children
Editor\'s Notes: give children a piece \"of State\"
Parents are their children early founder of living environment and enlightenment of children gender identity, children in the gender identity of right or wrong, is to a large extent depend on the parents of the importance of gender education or not. No wrong children born only if you do not understand the education of parents. Therefore, parents should act as soon as possible, to send children into this important \"Ming\".
Recognition and appreciation
Parents must first recognize the child\'s gender, let the boy realized that he was male, girls realized that he was female. Gender identity are important parts of your child self knowledge, this would make him on same-sex sexual identity, have a good opinion, and hope to have these gender characteristics. Parents on orally to explicitly tell the child: you, boy, you are girls. Bathing together can also take the opportunity, telling children about sex knowledge, boys take this identity, Dad girl recognized my mother, and through studying, gradually established themselves in gender traits. In addition, the parents on the child\'s gender also express appreciation, parents if the child is a boy or girl is pleased, children also was satisfied with their sex.
Role of examples
Children in observation of gained knowledge and inspiration, will try to use in real life, although some information may be stored for years in order to imitate and start. Parents are the child guidance in gender roles and mock objects, so be sure to pay attention to the impact of their actions, if the father some \"feminine,\" or speak mother used to casual work, are in front of the children who wish to overcome, so that the children \"stick closely to the pattern given.\" Note also that the exchanges for children and friends of the opposite sex, cannot be completely excluded children and both opposite-sex friendship, nor can let children and too close to the opposite sex.
At the different stages of life, children also have around looking for same-sex as a role model to emulate, parents can help their children choose a different age of same-sex models encourage the children themselves and \"examples\" gaps, determine the direction, to enable children to develop positive values and Outlook on life, which he formed the correct gender roles also have a large role.
Rewards and punishments
Children doing the thing that is consistent with their gender roles, parents should be rewarded, apart from occasional performing sexual acts, acts of sexual role of improper child, parents to poor response let him feel your performance in error, or give the appropriate amount of \"punishment\". This reward and punishment will give children a psychological support or pressure, prompting children according to their gender role behavior accordingly, and gradually formed fixed correct behavior.
Children are the future of the country and hope that, on their children\'s education must therefore be comprehensive. We promote \"equality\" is in the personality and the right to life, in a social norms. Children with kindness, strength, courage, self-reliance, and other excellent moral character, without distinction between men and women, of course, but we must not neglect, denying even the contrary gives children\'s gender attributes and differences, because it is not difficult to imagine a confusion of roles between men and women society, a site what will be the scenario. So, please give the children a \"out\", made him complete gender identity as soon as possible, thereby positioning their gender role, and the psychological characteristics of commensurate with gender roles and behaviour patterns, so that children grow to physical and mental health.
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