Children too \"effeminate:\"

Q． Daughter is 3 and a half, I found she was increasingly effeminate: recently, in the kindergarten, the teacher said the sentence: \"do you know is wrong? \" She burst into tears, cried mother, mother kept. At home, too, gently criticized her sentence, it lies in the ground angry. Now how psychological ability of children be so bad?

A: some children do sensitive setback that is easy to cry. The tears, and need adults to understand, give her a certain amount of time and space, some comfort, enabling her to adjust to.
But some children crying, you want to control adults to say the difference is her mental ability.
No parents are indifferent to child\'s cry, know what to do when the children cry adult--stop criticism? Her? Say \' yes \' to some of the \"unreasonable\" criteria? Promise? Or other?
Benefit can cry, cry of the children will be strengthened. Over time, the cry will become a habit, as children a means of blocking a negative rating, this is the last thing we want to see.
When children cry, no need to try to \"fool\" my child, trying to make her stop crying. We can try the following methods:
Accepted the children cry for what reason, don\'t rush to stop the cry of the children, you can say to her: \"it looks like you\'re sad, cry cry as some. \" Sometimes, you can also hold children, patted her back, help children calm down.
A few minutes walk away if the child see that you are afraid of her crying hoarse voice, you she will be the more cry themselves hoarse. Let a child like dolls with her, you whip a few minutes walk away, crying little return.
Threat even if you see a child cry is to manipulate you, is not to say \"I do not like you\" like. In fact, you can\'t do. Than edge top clean up her room, said some transfers her attention.
Insist on not let children climb window, can\'t roll over and over on the floor because children have compromised robbed me of other children or because the child crying is not returned. After crying, requirements

remain valid, and resolutely perform.
As the raising children tips Miao--pointed out in the 1001 parenting challenges in the solution \"for children\'s mental health, to allow the child to cry. However, if you think their tears with manipulating you, concerns about their support, but do not let your children tell you about conditions, don\'t be manipulated by them. ”