Such challenges, how can I answer the child?

Maybe you always spending time with children, playing with him, directing him to do a job, and chat with him, you think you know him very well, but when a child is suddenly raises questions, you are helpless. In fact, you are not does not know the answer, simply find it embarrassing or suddenly, do not know how to answer. Indeed, many parents answer children\'s questions, did not take into account the children how to accept information from their answers, they take it for granted that children can understand their euphemisms and complex answer and wondered why children don\'t do as in your own words.

In fact, if you do not follow the child\'s comprehension to communication, between parents and children will have a lot of misunderstanding. Of course this is completely avoidable, and nothing must abide by the rules. If you can consider the child\'s understanding, easy, simple and honest answer children\'s questions, the children it is easy to understand what you say.

Parents may encounter some problems

Why can\'t I see the film

· Your answer:

Young children yet to explain the so-called old movie reviews and watch the age limit will only make him more confused. May wish to put it simply, as his parents and guardians, do you think the film lens will let him frightened. And told him, you see the movie when, for some lenses will feel uncomfortable and so do not want him to see the film from movie scare.

For bigger kids, you can call a spade a spade, tells them of different age allowed to watch the movie class. Tell them this is the film censors of provisions, as citizens should comply with these rules. If he is found in accordance with their own age when you select the appropriate level of the movie, to reward him in a timely manner, to encourage and affirm his behavior.

Sometimes do lie on

· Your answer:

If your child is less than 5 years old, you should give a categorical answer: lying is absolutely wrong. Tell

him you can sprinkle some harmless lie will only make a small age he felt confused.

For bigger kids, this is a good opportunity to tell his world is not as simple as is a white or black. Sometimes, sprinkle some small lie in order not to hurt the feelings of others. For example, although they don\'t like Aunt do food, but still praises her cooking at her home because you had a good time, and next week will be very happy to go. Also clearly told the children, lying in order to escape punishment or conceal the error is not allowed. In addition, told him that he can\'t lie to you in the following things: where is he? Who with him, he is doing

MOM, why don\'t you speak language that I can\'t

· Your answer:

Comparison of small children, you can say: no one can say bad words, including the mother. And children in some euphemistic words instead of the language of the Church, such as \"do you be quiet for a while\" instead of \"you gave me to shut up.\" \"I could stay a little longer alone\" instead of \"get out\".

On some of the children, because he was able to understand some things people can do, but he could not. However, you may also require him, cursing others is not acceptable behavior. You two can work together to stop this bad behavior.

I have friends cheating, I should go to tell on you

· Your answer:

Immediately tell the children, no matter what the circumstances, cheating is wrong. Sure he has such a sense. And then tell him there are several treatment options for these things. For example, he can go to learn if their school has some security system for reporting and systems. Or, you ask him to tell his friend, hope that his friend can admit their mistakes and corrections. His friends may be very angry and even offensive, but perhaps these two children can take to solve the problem. Finally, your children will certainly did not tolerate this story proud for him.

What are condoms

· Your answer:

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l, finally asked the children to this type of headache by allowing parents \"issues\". I felt very awkward and embarrassing, please? Actually no, sat down and children answer the question honestly. You can skillfully skipping some obscure detail, from the birds and the bees began to transition to the people. Kids, condoms are used to help people only to the children when they want to have children. Observe the child\'s face, from the look of them get some implied, so when the judge stopped.

For bigger kids, can be answered with charts. Draw a man and a woman\'s reproductive system, tell them that condoms can prevent unplanned pregnancies, also can block HIV and sexually transmitted diseases bacterial invasion. Don\'t feel shy, this is very important for child safety knowledge.

Do we in public safety

· Your answer:

This is a medium developed society, small children will see or hear some bad news about the explosion or robbery, a little older fear may ask you questions. You have to do is honest. Truthfully to tell the children, but the way they can understand. Such as tell kids: Although there are bad people, but the policeman is responsible to seize these bad guys, we are safe. And then also give children some \"peace of mind-pin\", tell them: this bad things will happen rarely, and MOM and dad will protect you. This will give them a sense of security.

For a large number of children, such as school-age children or adolescents, they are able to accept deeper discussions. They want you to be able to help him understand his things from friends or heard on TV. But don\'t forget that they are still children, need

You tell them the bad incidents is very occasional and rare, thus reducing their sense of fear and insecurity. Also keep in mind that the older children, it is easy to have the worries we as adults. Understandably, adults will sometimes insecure. Mastering a skill: full understanding of relevant departments of State and Government onthe safeguard measures, and then share these positive information and the children will help children eliminate inner insecurity.

Do you and dad to divorce

· Your answer:

If you couple feeling very well, be sure to figure out why he asked. His friend\'s parents had divorced? Or is he accidentally overheard the two of you more bitter quarrel? And then tell the children, it is a good relationship in the world, there will be conflicts and quarrels, but you can solve these problems and his father.

For more children, you can use the same answer. But if you are arguing in front of the children\'s behavior, be sure to reconciliation before the children, let the children see you actions and efforts made to resolve the issue.

· Assuming you really want to divorce, that your answer should be like this:

You and your partner are to sit down and talk with the children to talk about. Will moderate the matter tell children as lightly as possible, but must be honest. By you personally to tell him about it from the mouth of others that is better than him. Tell children you love them, and care for each other, but you can\'t have lived together. He was sure that this does not mean that you will love him a little less, although he has only one of them lived together with you, but another who would often came to see him. Remember, this thing very sad for you, is also true for the kids.

Why Grandma will die

· Your answer:

Don\'t cheat your children never said the dead man is asleep and sleep for a long time, or travel to far places. That will make children afraid of going to bed at night, or you go out during the day. Tell children all living things will die, this is the law of nature. People, animals and plants as well. Then find some comfort, said: while Grandma and we no longer live together, but we can think of her.

For a large number of children, you should give him the opportunity to release their own sad. Ask the child

ren to feel, and tell him: I know how much you think you Grandma, I miss her. You need to let the child know sad is normal, others feel the same way. And then find an appropriate example to tell him that all living things would have died after a certain period of time.

What happens after the father has no job, we

· Your answer:

Calmly telling children dad is looking for a new job, don\'t worry. But you should now be more save more, so as not to let the father take care of distraction. Then talk to the children while saving thing. Even children under 5 will understand the concept of saving. For example to illustrate: \"do you remember any time you wish to buy a spaceship? Later, we used a discarded box give you a beautiful spaceship, not spend a penny, but is it more interesting? We also do it yourself after toys, OK? ”

For a large number of children, available approaches the dilemma of brainstorming ways to collect. You will be amazed to find that your child is such a man. For example, he will be when you are busy, offer to help you clean up the House, and even cooking. In difficult times if contribute can make children feel that they can partner, he must feel very happy. A greater number of children, you can encourage him to use holiday jobs to earn their own money. This favourable to the establishment of child\'s self-confidence.

Answer the challenge of skills

In reply to a child before I have to look how much he knew. If one day your child asks you some challenges such as sex, death, politics, maybe you should simply ask: what do you hear? Let your child express their understanding of the first, or even misunderstandings, thereby discovered his problem and what is of real concern.

· Keep the answer simple: you\'re the answer must be given for your child\'s age, sometimes a Word is enough. Behind in his question, maybe he\'s just worried about their safety, so be sure to let him get security assurance: \"police Uncle will

protect our\" or \"air sister will tell us how to stay on the plane safely\".

· Asking more questions: If your child asks you about personnel injury news, you can say: I was very sorry to see so many people were injured, what about you? If he was being bullied at school, you have to let him tell you their feelings. Ask more questions, to know more about the children inside, what he is thinking, what fear and doubt? To specifically answer.

· Repeatedly talking about: you might want to prepare, sometimes your children to ask you the same question is repeated. This suggests that he had been thinking about it, or he wants to get more information. So at the time of answer for the first time, to hold back a trick or two, so that when he asked again to tell him again.

· Agrees with the child\'s feeling: when communication with the children, it must be noted, that is, no matter what is your child feeling, you are going to make him understand that you agree with him. Only he felt were recognized and accepted, he can truly feel and resolved the issue. And if children know you agree with his feelings, they will be more willing to open your heart and your communication, you feel more. Questioning the child said, it definitely will be a communication barrier between you.

· Set a good example: being a good example, if you always say rude or angry shouted habits, how can you

Tell kids not to do it? Although there are some things the adults \' privileges, such as staying up late, to children can\'t go to the place. But as parents, if you do not want children to learn what your sample, it should always pay attention to your behavior. Also, a word parents reduces child many doubts in our hearts.