Read, speak, sing

In order to help all parents to go with your children get the best growth of children to read, speak, sing, keep encouraging your child to express and use rules to your child-rearing, which is more difficult. Give an example, when you say no to your child when children can\'t get anything at this time. If we punish a child, what children can not through punishment to learn, this rule is to guide your child in fact, to guide your children, how to teach them. Of course we need to protect our children, but we do not need to punish them. So I said these rules are going to guide you, you\'re going to guide them. How do we let the children do have the rules? We are not going to punish them, we can allow the child to have the rules that we help them establish some practices of everyday life, forming some of the code of conduct, let them avoid becoming rules, disobedient children.
In the United States to me complaining that I often hear parents get up in the morning the children want to put you getting them to wear clothes, so parents have to rush to work, time is very tight, children did not want to wear the clothes you are ready, so they started to quarrel. So I think one way is better, at the time of the night before, for example, you have a lot of time in the evening, you give your children only two options, you want to wear the dress or the like to wear this dress? So we don\'t have a pile of clothes put in there the next morning.

Intellectual development of the baby as soon as possible please?

On the academic achievement of expected     in the different stages of development of the child, children have a lot to learn, but they have to be ready when they are ready, they can go to learn. One again, Dr Gesell stressed: every child, from anywhere in the world of children is the same, they are subject to a specific stage of development. Some children his development is very fast, and then slow down again, and then quickly, some children may be fast and slow, slow, fast, is a different pace of their development. In fact, the development of both rhythm and there is no right and wrong, but they are experienced in the development process so that a specific phase, just, rhythm in their unique way to development.

Understanding child psychology

Understanding child psychology

I believe that every child has the right to get the best development, then we as parents, we also have the right to help the best development of the child. Parents play a very important role, because our parents have to do is to help our children from a small baby grows up to become an adult.
Now, let us discuss: what do parents really need to do and what to do.

1. Interactive--\"serve and to serve\"
Do we have to play tennis? I also recently heard the term, is in the interaction between parents and children, is like playing tennis – serving and back to serve. This one time interaction is very important.
I\'ll give you an example, when the baby is very small when the baby is unable to speak, but in fact we are to imagine the baby can talk, can understand our words, we say to baby: \"How are you? How are you? I\'m the mother! \"And then you make the assumption that, baby talk, make some response. In fact, because we know children are still very small, he is unable to speak, but is this \"service and back to serve\", and parents on the child and said how are you? Then children will look at you, then he will smile on you, you know he is responsive, so keep, child\'s response, your reaction is their smile. Sounds I give this example is very simple, but the interaction is indeed very important. Or we can also cite many other examples, are also envisaged an interaction with the children, for example, we will do the clapping game. In fact, is as far as possible have interactive games with the children.

2. Interaction with the environment
I cite this example is the interaction between parents and children of the game, is to learn from the interaction of children. Of course, they also learn through interaction with the environment, that is, children in this environment--to hear, see, touch, smell, so we actively invite children to participate in as much as possible to the environment.
In many cases, the parents think that children should be good, don\'t touch anything. Fixed, but if they were sitting there, they will learn what? We need is interaction between children and the environment.
My child is now 25 years old, when my mother when I was 29 years old. When children are very young, at home, I will be very expensive items, such as vases, on a particularly high where he reach, or I\'d like to read this magazine in a closet, all I do is this: let children have fun and explore safely. In this case, I make sure that everything can be moved, you can touch, I can try to reduce the he said \"no\". Because, in this way, children can contact with the environment as possible.

3. Experience
Children who experience is very important. Because studies have shown that these experiences and academic performance is good or bad is a relationship. The so-called experience, in fact, what we do--go to the library and children daily, to the Park, by bus, and so on. But as long as you think about, in fact, children experience more, his vocabulary faster growth. In the United States, we have a \"head start\" (head start) project, this project is for those children with normal children of low-income families to experience the more games and entertainment. Why do we call it a \"head start\" (head start)? Not because from the beginning of the brain, but because we want to provide low-income children with normal children of the family the opportunity, to make up for the activities and all the experience they missed.

4. Play! Play!
Here, I would like to stress--children should play. As adults, we should play with them.
I once wrote an article mainly is to say, playing in the children, parents are the first, who is also a company of one of the most important. As parents, we should not at all afraid of playing with the children.
Parents are usually the first thing to say, these teachers are doing? How are the children playing, maybe that\'s parents do not understand the fact that children are learning through play. What are they studying? We can look at the cartoon above, I asked them to tiny bubbles, coming out of small boxes, we can see the first big bubble, there was a small boy in a cup of tea, I say you doing? He said I was thinking of development of fluency.
Following playing with building blocks of the children, these children mind are conceived plans, or are solving the problem. Also has a child said, he is in the draw, he said I was developing a good sense of self.
I would like to say, you get this picture of you will ask, what are kids learning? I want my children to learn the letters, learning to count. However, before they learn the letters, but before they learn the letters, they must have these foundations, as if it were a network, when you are compiling a network, you need to have intertwined with each other to support the composition of the network. We know that without this Foundation, you go to the series the net, then it will die,

It is hanging in the air, there is no basis. So you see these pictures of children, they may be three or four years old, they are doing is in fact in woven and fundamental part of the network.
We look at all of the dialog, you will see the children are playing some kind of basis. I\'ll give you an example, see the two children that I was developing more precise language competence, all the studies show that, before a child can read they need to have a lot of vocabulary and oral expression ability. When I went to a kindergarten classroom, if special quiet, I would think these kids are learning what? Because, I think children need to have a lot of language practice opportunities, before they are able to read, they must have a lot of vocabulary and statements. Now we look at the left corner of a small boy painting a picture, the little boy I was developing a good sense of self. Good sense of self development, for example, just like the parable of the chicken and egg, is the first, the chicken is an egg? Also is it chicken eggs first and then? The self-consciousness is a good sense of self and then have a good academic performance, is also a good academic performance and then have the good sense of self? For me, I think it is essential for parents is to make children feel that they enjoy learning.

5. the more curious, more
For me, I do not think that if a child he loved to learn, he is not the motivation school bad, in fact in the United States many of these research institutions are also in the study of how best to develop learning motivation. For example, how children growing curiosity about it? In fact is the more you wonder, one of the things you\'ll learn more. Example of a is for parents to do with curiosity, parents will encourage this curiosity, parents can leave children often feel that they are really stupid.

Outdoor activities of parent-child safety measures

First, the venue security:

1, according to themes, carefully chosen venues before each activity must send staff to explore a way, and the site provides a detailed understanding of the basic conditions of venues, facilities and safety factors;

2, according to the site, provided you plan your parking location, organization, activities, dining locations,;

3, if the activities in the room, also on site fire exits, fire-fighting facilities and so on more information about and do a emergency plan for emergency evacuation;

4, two days one night or more activities, also on accommodation, venue security at night to make a study of argumentation, and power outages, such as suspension of emergency treatment.

Second, the transport:

1, from formal legal transportation company providing luxury coach shuttle activity participants, do not overload, non-speed line, not in violation of traffic;

2, the activities of the former venue transportation road conditions to learn more, and in accordance with the conditions of safe passage of vehicles;

3, do the activities of bus route map, indicating the relevant contact telephone and adjust parking locations.

Three, diet, health and safety:

1, the formal legal companies provide drinking water to ensure water quality, drinking water safety;

2 eat, provided by the formal legal companies activities to ensure food hygiene, does not provide cold or cooked food.

Four, active organization security:

1, every car is equipped with 1-2 have a strong security awareness and enrich the activities of the organizations experienced teachers, each one active security contact table, let the organization know every aspect of the phone you want; ensure that normal development;

2, people in transition, activities Member of the teachers do to the body clear, accurate numbers;

3, travelling in the course of activities teachers organization officers ordered, from making personnel motion sickness care preparations;

4, activities in the course of activities teachers every one is to inventory the number of venues and before leaving, and keeps note of activities carried out during each security links;

5, culture in the course of participating in the activities of basic security awareness, self-help knowledge of self-care.

Five, other safety and security:

1, activities equipped with medical and nursing staff, bursts of activity occurred during emergency medical preparedness;

2, provided $ 100,000 to every participating activities accident insurance, $ 5,000 medical additional risks.

Boy is poor?

Troubleshooting expert: Xu Fan

Q: my child is a boy. Poor child, he became-rich, I think the idea has its positive aspects, but the actual operation is still very difficult, who do not want to give your children the best. Would like to ask the experts, how children develop the good habit of plain living?

A: poor child, the \"poor\" is relative in nature. Is intended to remind parents not to disregard their own economic situation or social and economic level, like the magic gourd-like trying to meet the requirements of the children, and consumption only child into an ease, no responsibility, and not creative power and ability of the people.

Both boys and girls, sooner or later have to leave us, in the self-reliance of the community. When their life is happy, and their income can meet their own consumption are closely related. So we can tell, is the attention to the child\'s ability to survive, to create dynamic, also is to continuously meet the desire to improve their level of consumption.

Of course, in the process of raising, some parents are very difficult. For example, not to \"give your children the best\". Which parents can give children not willing to do their \"best\"? But we have to grasp what is \"best\". \"Best\" is not necessarily the most expensive, but for home consumption, by carefully selected, quality safety of parents. For children the \"best\" things, often imbued with the love of parents, parents with prudence, security for the development of the entire family.

Concept of frugality is important in any level of the economy. Whether it concerns us in our daily lives have the best use of consciousness, does know how to weigh price to performance ratio, can in the limited material resources created in the most beautiful in life. Therefore, thrift is not meant to deliberately make life poor, more does not mean that important programme cheaper at the expense of quality.

Training children of thrift consciousness, actually is a values of passed process: (1) we of behavior and on things of evaluation will effect children; (2) we in meet children of a item demand Shi to wanted to a wanted to, is in for he future of survival ability plus min also is reduction min; (3) to to children experience \"no\" of opportunities; (4) to let children feel created of happy.

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Edit/Shen Yan (shenyan@bphg.com.CN)

Source: 2007 issue of the parents must read