Read, speak, sing

In order to help all parents to go with your children get the best growth of children to read, speak, sing, keep encouraging your child to express and use rules to your child-rearing, which is more difficult. Give an example, when you say no to your child when children can\'t get anything at this time. If we punish a child, what children can not through punishment to learn, this rule is to guide your child in fact, to guide your children, how to teach them. Of course we need to protect our children, but we do not need to punish them. So I said these rules are going to guide you, you\'re going to guide them. How do we let the children do have the rules? We are not going to punish them, we can allow the child to have the rules that we help them establish some practices of everyday life, forming some of the code of conduct, let them avoid becoming rules, disobedient children.
In the United States to me complaining that I often hear parents get up in the morning the children want to put you getting them to wear clothes, so parents have to rush to work, time is very tight, children did not want to wear the clothes you are ready, so they started to quarrel. So I think one way is better, at the time of the night before, for example, you have a lot of time in the evening, you give your children only two options, you want to wear the dress or the like to wear this dress? So we don\'t have a pile of clothes put in there the next morning.

Intellectual development of the baby as soon as possible please?

On the academic achievement of expected     in the different stages of development of the child, children have a lot to learn, but they have to be ready when they are ready, they can go to learn. One again, Dr Gesell stressed: every child, from anywhere in the world of children is the same, they are subject to a specific stage of development. Some children his development is very fast, and then slow down again, and then quickly, some children may be fast and slow, slow, fast, is a different pace of their development. In fact, the development of both rhythm and there is no right and wrong, but they are experienced in the development process so that a specific phase, just, rhythm in their unique way to development.

Often said that the children fool, boy is so dull?

Often say that the children fool, do children really dull? Experts say parents worded properly, will affect the psychological!
　
Madam Lee had a son, the child in front of the school they are obedient, sometimes out of the House special face, education of parents in a kindly manner, but the effect is not good. No way, parents often scold him, under violence, son of convergence, is not as good as the people children. On one occasion, he because something does not meet the purpose, slept on the floor and roll, was the child\'s father had a butt. Afterwards, Lady Lee to find their children make mistakes when asking him, he has a stutter of phenomena. After school, very simple topic, he often because of careless mistakes, parents can not help but say that he \"fools\", asked for his careful, frequently reminded, he was made a number of low-level errors, dead adults are worried. Ms Li doubts, is improper because parents education methods, influence the mental health of children, make children really silly?

Children\'s mental education experts said Nanjing Normal University Professor Fu Hong, parent education method incorrectly, often say that the children fool, will definitely affect the child\'s mental health, resulting in dull appearance. As a child with stuttering is the phenomenon of psychological problems, not biological problems, his language skills insufficient, on the impact of early childhood are not appropriate. Fu said the inferiority of ADHD children, and why? In fact, ADHD itself does not cause the child inferiority, but creates his violation of social norms and rules and regulations, teachers and parents will criticize him and scolded him, causing his psychological pressure, feel themselves well, always being criticized, a long time , and inferiority.

Professor Fu recommends that parents may wish to observe the actions of children, language, and less to interfere in his behavior was duly given the boot.

Understanding child psychology

Understanding child psychology

I believe that every child has the right to get the best development, then we as parents, we also have the right to help the best development of the child. Parents play a very important role, because our parents have to do is to help our children from a small baby grows up to become an adult.
Now, let us discuss: what do parents really need to do and what to do.

1. Interactive--\"serve and to serve\"
Do we have to play tennis? I also recently heard the term, is in the interaction between parents and children, is like playing tennis – serving and back to serve. This one time interaction is very important.
I\'ll give you an example, when the baby is very small when the baby is unable to speak, but in fact we are to imagine the baby can talk, can understand our words, we say to baby: \"How are you? How are you? I\'m the mother! \"And then you make the assumption that, baby talk, make some response. In fact, because we know children are still very small, he is unable to speak, but is this \"service and back to serve\", and parents on the child and said how are you? Then children will look at you, then he will smile on you, you know he is responsive, so keep, child\'s response, your reaction is their smile. Sounds I give this example is very simple, but the interaction is indeed very important. Or we can also cite many other examples, are also envisaged an interaction with the children, for example, we will do the clapping game. In fact, is as far as possible have interactive games with the children.

2. Interaction with the environment
I cite this example is the interaction between parents and children of the game, is to learn from the interaction of children. Of course, they also learn through interaction with the environment, that is, children in this environment--to hear, see, touch, smell, so we actively invite children to participate in as much as possible to the environment.
In many cases, the parents think that children should be good, don\'t touch anything. Fixed, but if they were sitting there, they will learn what? We need is interaction between children and the environment.
My child is now 25 years old, when my mother when I was 29 years old. When children are very young, at home, I will be very expensive items, such as vases, on a particularly high where he reach, or I\'d like to read this magazine in a closet, all I do is this: let children have fun and explore safely. In this case, I make sure that everything can be moved, you can touch, I can try to reduce the he said \"no\". Because, in this way, children can contact with the environment as possible.

3. Experience
Children who experience is very important. Because studies have shown that these experiences and academic performance is good or bad is a relationship. The so-called experience, in fact, what we do--go to the library and children daily, to the Park, by bus, and so on. But as long as you think about, in fact, children experience more, his vocabulary faster growth. In the United States, we have a \"head start\" (head start) project, this project is for those children with normal children of low-income families to experience the more games and entertainment. Why do we call it a \"head start\" (head start)? Not because from the beginning of the brain, but because we want to provide low-income children with normal children of the family the opportunity, to make up for the activities and all the experience they missed.

4. Play! Play!
Here, I would like to stress--children should play. As adults, we should play with them.
I once wrote an article mainly is to say, playing in the children, parents are the first, who is also a company of one of the most important. As parents, we should not at all afraid of playing with the children.
Parents are usually the first thing to say, these teachers are doing? How are the children playing, maybe that\'s parents do not understand the fact that children are learning through play. What are they studying? We can look at the cartoon above, I asked them to tiny bubbles, coming out of small boxes, we can see the first big bubble, there was a small boy in a cup of tea, I say you doing? He said I was thinking of development of fluency.
Following playing with building blocks of the children, these children mind are conceived plans, or are solving the problem. Also has a child said, he is in the draw, he said I was developing a good sense of self.
I would like to say, you get this picture of you will ask, what are kids learning? I want my children to learn the letters, learning to count. However, before they learn the letters, but before they learn the letters, they must have these foundations, as if it were a network, when you are compiling a network, you need to have intertwined with each other to support the composition of the network. We know that without this Foundation, you go to the series the net, then it will die,

It is hanging in the air, there is no basis. So you see these pictures of children, they may be three or four years old, they are doing is in fact in woven and fundamental part of the network.
We look at all of the dialog, you will see the children are playing some kind of basis. I\'ll give you an example, see the two children that I was developing more precise language competence, all the studies show that, before a child can read they need to have a lot of vocabulary and oral expression ability. When I went to a kindergarten classroom, if special quiet, I would think these kids are learning what? Because, I think children need to have a lot of language practice opportunities, before they are able to read, they must have a lot of vocabulary and statements. Now we look at the left corner of a small boy painting a picture, the little boy I was developing a good sense of self. Good sense of self development, for example, just like the parable of the chicken and egg, is the first, the chicken is an egg? Also is it chicken eggs first and then? The self-consciousness is a good sense of self and then have a good academic performance, is also a good academic performance and then have the good sense of self? For me, I think it is essential for parents is to make children feel that they enjoy learning.

5. the more curious, more
For me, I do not think that if a child he loved to learn, he is not the motivation school bad, in fact in the United States many of these research institutions are also in the study of how best to develop learning motivation. For example, how children growing curiosity about it? In fact is the more you wonder, one of the things you\'ll learn more. Example of a is for parents to do with curiosity, parents will encourage this curiosity, parents can leave children often feel that they are really stupid.

Waiting is also a kind of education

This noon, defended the computer, waiting to wake up on time xiaoding classmate, sent to school. This afternoon the teacher to bring their children to those singled out open class on the outside, requests to 13:30. See the down Chamber of Xiqiao variable woodcutter bold small bile, saw the worried child height and weight of the mother\'s post, decided to write this sentence, always remind yourself:

Waiting is also a kind of education.

This is a Sunday listening to lectures of Professor Zhang Meiling, I notice one of the most.

Professor Chang said children at the age of two and a half, boy 44, self-consciousness of girls age 22 will highlight, which would advise, disobedient, rebellious. Method main is waiting. She grew up slowly through this stage. Just like the menopause, these two phases, is the person must be experienced. Of course, menopause, some reaction, reaction is small.

Memories xiaoding students grow up, I found this remark, it is particularly important.

Xiaoding primary school talk, not parroting what sweat blood grandma at that time. Grandmother, the mother was as nagging, xiaoding now, ten nine will say she is sharp-tongued. Now, back of Tang poetry, is also the case, you go to you, she never read, but the next day morning, you things off, she can continue.

On the school for almost a year, today teaches what problems do you have never lost. But, I do not know when, channeling channeling songs, rhymes, stories, came out.

On a term, I didn\'t know that her school also opened an English class, was one day when I say a Word, she said the teacher.

Also not left foot last month jump on one foot, has this month can jump one or two steps.

Today was selected to go to the open class, but also because of this last term don\'t raise their hands xiaoding students have now not only quiet in class, and actively answer questions.

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Sometimes, really we were too impatient, even if the concept

has accepted she is unique, anxiety is uncontrollable.

I remember this sentence in my every expression of impatience to emerge when, in each lecture to talk alert themselves.

Often I think of her like a disk, no matter what I write, is left imprinted, although it may write now in sight, but one day it will render.

Clever parents educate children to do three things

　　

Parents treat their children without outside three cases: first, tube, pipe, doing a lot of things, the effect is bad; second, everything, doing nothing, unchecked, more bad effect; three tubes, but not all pipes, has not done much, but the point, success in the growth of the child. Clever parents of boy children always choose \"does\", more specifically, do only three things.

First thing: healthy parent-child relationship

Good parent-child relationship can bring the family to a multiplier effect. When do parents and children relations, and on the child\'s education is likely to succeed; when bad relationship with the children, on children\'s education easy to fail. Establish good parent-child relationship, its location is the key.

Improper 1, \"judges\", \"lawyer\".

Some parents see their children out of the question, can\'t wait worked as a \"judge\", this is very dangerous.

Learn to do the \"lawyer\" refers to parents treat their children as lawyers take their parties, understanding their inner needs, and has always been to maintain their legitimate rights for the purpose only. Children the inner world of colorful, parents need to actively influence and educate children, does not understand their inner world is impossible. Understanding child care is the first tips of their self-esteem and preserve its rights, as its trusted and respected friend.

2, improper \"referee\", \"Lala\".

In the arenas of life, children himself to efforts. Parents are no substitute for children, also should not do it ourselves to when the \"referee\", and children should be given a good competitive power of the State, that is, \"Lala\" power. It can help your child build self-confidence, and this is the core task of the family.

Parents make their children \"Lala\", it is necessary to be good at discov

ering and praise your child\'s strengths and efforts, and also to guide children properly failure in children suffer a setback when his comrades.

3, improper \"Tamer\", \"mirror\".

Education is the education-third, seven parts. \"Wait\" is very useful. Mosquito bites such as us, regardless of it, will soon be all right, if total to scratch, but a long time to good. The reason is that the human body have a certain amount of self healing features impose external forces tend to backfire.

Education is also the reason, will not do \"Tamer\", stopped to wait, giving children the opportunity to be heard, and the child to communicate effectively, solve the problem without education.

Children only know themselves can beat themselves, but they usually only know themselves according to feedback from others, parent feedback effects that \"mirror\" effect is important. Parents learn to be \"the mirror\", can help children improve their awareness, to let the child do not be afraid of her parents \' \"authority\", and parent communication.

The second thing: children good habits

Used to decide the fate of the parents if you fail to pay attention to cultivate good habits in children is undoubtedly in bury the child a better future.

1 cultivation began, all from the habit.

Facts prove that habit is a strong force, can dominate one\'s life. All begin with cultivating habit of children.

2, the habit is not a day.

Formation of good habits are in no way a day, its main principles are: low starting point and strict demands, small steps, fast paced, multiple activities, seeking change, fast feedback, correction. Habit lies in the first three days, decided in a month. Parents need to fully respect the rights of children, let the children play in habit master role.

3 cast character, through the training habits.

Education is like up at sea, must be the correct route, otherwise bigger danger of sunken rocks the boat. Human qual

ity determines the direction of development. Family education is the core task of training children to be a real person.

The third thing: attract children love learning and guide children learning to learn

Love is the best teacher. Attracting children love learning and guide the child learning to learn is an important duty of the parents.

1, children who are tired of is a reason.

Let, let smart; pipe blind pipe, type of bean; nagging scold, wanton curse; instead of the package to create \"machine\" sth If parents take so many sensible approach will only make children less and less fond of learning.

Kids love learning not just surface phenomenon, there must be reason behind: there is no good study habits? Haven\'t found children do best? There is no scientific brain? Is impeded by the parents children \"play school\" nature? Children unaware of the study is his own business sth Find the reason behind, can help the child out of boring in the shadows.

2, child\'s thirst for knowledge and learning potential can be fired.

Children lack of intellectual curiosity, usually is not a request of the parents is not strict enough, but parents impeded the child\'s interest.

Interest sense of curiosity, dreams, achievements, questioned, gratitude, and strenuous, are clear and inspire intellectual curiosity of the children channel. For children, development of so-called competitive advantage is the potential to be effective. Mood, resuscitation, implied, reverie, motivation, six principles of the plan is to motivate children learning potential.

Timetable for potential development although not absolute, but there are steps, such as the establishment of targets, controlling emotions, honed the will, the focus point is very important.

3, let your children learn outstanding is a method.

\"Love\" is a \"learn\" the premise \"to learn\" is \"love\" guarantee, \"learn\" to \"learn\".

Children to achieve excellent academic per

formance, you must have some good way to have a decisive role, such as a complete learning objectives as planned, carefully writing, take your textbook, finishing the wrong problem, readily notes, the selfless help students, efficient examinations, write compositions freely.

Now many parents in the education of children has entered a new misunderstandings on the issue, that is, blind blind faith even addicted to the so-called successful experience in son, but these experiences listening to easily done. Because they do not have \"mobility\", if you just blindly imitate, not only failed to fulfill upon their children, but easy to \"imitate foolishly\", the opposite.

Most useful thing is the need to get down to thinking and refine. Education children and imagination without parents as complex, and doing a parent-child relationships, custom training and learning events in all three, parents become prominent parents, children become outstanding children, it is not a distant dream.

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